You want to be perfect. You want their love. You want to love them and be you and not feel guilty for it. So you try to change yourself, you try things you wouldn’t otherwise, you say things and you feel a little weird about it, but then you get their approval or their smile and everything is okay again. But by the end of it, whether it be a week, a month, a year later, you’ve changed. You’re different and now your friends are gone, or distant, or angry. But it’s okay because who needs them anyway? You’ve got your special someone.
And they let go of you. You try to argue, you try to say “but I’ve done everything for you!” and they say “I’m just not feeling it anymore” or “It wasn’t enough” or maybe even they blame it on you. Maybe any number of things happened. You’re angry, but worse, you’re confused. You’re not sure who you are anymore, and you don’t know where to go from here.
This is where you decide who you are. This is where you learn that some things, you just will not compromise. This is where you learn it is okay to say no. It’s okay and if they don’t respect it, it’s on them. Who are they to force something on you? Whether it be weed, alcohol, a new food, anything.
That’s not to say you can’t go Why not? and try something new. But don’t compromise your values for no good reason. Remember your own boundaries, and hope that the people you meet respect them.